Have you ever received a “tongue lashing” from someone – a really harsh scolding? Maybe you got a tongue lashing for being a misbehaved child. Maybe you were scolded at work for a project that went south. The tongue is such a strong instrument of power. It wields the power to lift up and unite and create joy. It also wields the power to cause pain and suffering.
Do you build people up or do you tear them down with your words? There is a very old book that says, “The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life, but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.” It’s true. Have you ever wanted to take something back right after you said it? Have you ever thoughtlessly judged or antagonized someone only to feel worse yourself? Have you ever spread gossip only to feel guilty for doing it, or worse, have it come back to bite you? Have you ever used harsh language only to find your child repeat it later on?
Can you recall a time when you were hurt by someone’s words? Maybe you’ve forgiven them by now, yet you can still recall the feeling of pain it caused you. Words can be forgiven but they can also be scarring, so be careful how you use that tongue of yours. What you say may not so quickly be forgotten, even if it’s forgiven.
Use your words to build people up, build confidence in people. Use your words to heal someone’s heart. Use your words to show love and encouragement. Instead of criticism, give constructive feedback. Sometimes it’s just how you present the information to someone that makes all the difference.
How will you use that powerful tool between your teeth? Next time you find yourself rushed to anger, take a breath and choose your words wisely. I have a hard time with this, and I often speak before I think, but it’s something I’m working on all the time. Hopefully you’ll join me in this effort. Just a thought.
After the holidays and all that shopping and all those gifts, it’s easy to feel like you just have too much clutter in your life. Too much stuff to pack away and not enough room for it all. January is a great month clean up, clear out and make some room! Start clean and fresh with some of these tips…
Put out a box and give yourself (and your family) a month to fill it with stuff you come across that you no longer use or need. Stash it all in the box and by month’s end, donate it!
Clean in places you rarely pay attention to, like for me, the cupboard beneath the sink. It’s where I stash grocery bags, garbage bags and then some. It could use a clean sweep!
Clean out your computer. Old emails, old photos and old files. Clean them up or organize them into folders so you can see your desktop easier.
Clean out your phone. Delete old contacts you never call and old apps you never use.
Take inventory of your medicine cabinet and check expiration dates on bottles you have rarely used this year.
When was the last time you crawled to the deepest, darkest corner of your refrigerator to see what’s in the mystery food container? It’s time my friend…
Clean your car. It’s like a magnet for random papers, crumbs and dust. It’s time to clean it out and polish it up!
Get a calendar and get organized! Whether it’s an online calendar or a wall calendar with kittens on it, make it a goal to put down your obligations and vacations so you keep on top of your schedule better in 2013.
Clear out your mind. Tonight, join me on the radio and take some time to simply enjoy the songs and stories on my show. Let me help soothe off the rough edges of your week and help you clear the clutter in your head after a long day.
Lots of people have been falling in love over the holidays and new relationships are igniting an exciting start to a New Year. One loyal listener sent me a message on Facebook asking for a little advice about an issue of the heart. Her story put a smile on my face…
I'm twenty years old, and I've listened to your show since I was a little girl. I've never had a boyfriend and never been in love, but there's a young man at work making me miserable...in a good way. I only recently considered that I might be thinking of him as more than just someone I work with. We talk often throughout the day, and he always says hello when we cross paths. We're usually on break together, as if by accident. I'll talk to him when I wouldn't usually talk to other coworkers, or other people in general. He's always been warm and friendly to me.
My trouble is, I don't know why this makes me so miserable. I frequently check my schedule to see when I'll be working with him, and I always look around for him throughout the day, but when I see him I'm always so shy or nervous that I have to look away again. I can't help but smile when we happen to look at each other, and my heart beats just a little faster when I'm near him. And at the end of the day, I'm always sad when we have to go our separate ways. GS
Your heart is a flutter, you’re always looking for him, you’re checking your schedule and it’s making you miserable – in a good way. It sounds like you have a “crush” my friend! If it didn’t hurt a little bit, they’d call it something else. And I say enjoy this time in your life where you get to feel twitterpated by someone. If you two are meant to be more, it will happen.
Who else has a story of new love in the New Year? I want to dedicate a song to you and your sweetie. Call in today and request a love song for your sweetheart or your secret crush. My number is 1-888-633-5452. Or if you need to be more discreet, quietly email it to me at D@Delilah.com. I hope to hear from you soon!
I want to wish you a Merry Christmas, may you rejoice in the reason for the season, and delight in the beautiful hymns that share the message…
O Holy Night,
The stars are brightly shining,
It is the night of our dear Savior’s birth;
Long lay the world in sin and error pining,
'Til He appeared and the soul felt its worth.
A thrill of hope the weary world rejoices,
For yonder breaks a new and glorious morn;
Fall on your knees,
Oh, hear the angels voices!
O night divine, O night when Christ was born!
O night, O holy night,
O night divine!
"For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people." (Titus 2:11) That's exactly what Christmas is really about, that's the Christmas story in 12 words! There's so much more to the story, but it's that simple. Thank you, Jesus.
We signed up for the "Adopt A Soldier" program for Thanksgiving at the nearest military base, which happens to be a multi-service facility. Many of our young military people are not able to go home for the holidays, so this is our way of giving them a little leisure, a little "family life,” and a lot of home-cooked food!
As it turned out, we had six young men, whom we found were all Navy. After we got home, we learned that they were all "culinary specialists" -- Navy COOKS! NO, they did not do any cooking while with us. We told them they had the day off! They all agreed that the two things they wanted most were sleep and a home-cooked meal. They got both while they were with us! And filled plates to take back to base with them that evening!
We don't know yet if the USO office will do the same thing for Christmas, but if they do we will again be a part of it. And, if we are fortunate enough to share our Christmas with them, there will be some small gift for each of them under our tree. It is not the gift that counts, but the sharing. Sharing of our home, sharing of ourselves, and sharing of the real meaning of Christmas! Our way of giving each of them a "taste of home" when they can't get there in person. Irene
Hosting six Navy cooks for Thanksgiving – now that’s a lot of pressure! But I bet those boys loved every minute of their “taste of home” while letting someone else do the cooking. What’s your story? What are your plans for Christmas? Or tell me your goal(s) for the coming year? I’d love to hear from you today: D@Delilah.com.